"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….
First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”
But here is what I think you should know.
You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.
You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.
You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).
You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.
In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.
In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”
I fucked up. It’s totally my own fault. I don’t deserve anyone bailing me out. Please bail me out.
I made a very serious and important indiegogo
So I spent about six hours yesterday brushing up on my Israel-Palestine relations wondering if I could possibly make a video about it. The answer is…I cannot. Just taking a look at my Tumblr ask box has convinced me of that. If I did make that video, I would not condemn Hamas or Israel purely because I am incapable of making that kind of judgement.
This is not me not being true to myself. It’s not me fearing retribution from one side or the other. It’s that the more I learn about it, the more I do not know. This is a pattern…when someone that isn’t involved in an issue has an opinion on it, it tends to be completely useless. Once they learn about the topic, they understand their uselessness. I have come to understand mine. In the script I abandoned, I wrote:
I don’t know what should be done and neither do any of the smartest, most informed people in the world. Having an opinion on how to fix this would be like me having an opinion on how to perform a brain transplant. No one can do it…least of all me.
In my video, my main concern would not be figuring that out, but simply increasing the number of people in the world who understand the conflict on even the most basic level.
In my searchings and readings, the attached link was what felt to me like the most unbiased, fullest picture of the conflict in the fewest words. There are, to be sure, many things that this leaves out. But I felt like it was delivering the kind of depth that, ideally, a video I would make would provide.
Unfortunately, that’s not the video I’m making for tomorrow. Every time I wrote it (four times) it ended with a me feeling like it was completely inadequate to the task of explaining how complicated the conflict in Israel is.
I’m not saying I’ll never make that video…I’ll keep working on it, but it’s not a two-day task.
But if you want to know what’s up with the Irsrael-Palestine conflict, this link is the one I would suggest you start with. It’s pretty impressive work.
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